Your Quasi-Identical is like that twin-sibling of yours that happened to grow up with another family. You both have got the same strengths and weaknesses, but how you implement and utilize them is the exact opposite. It is as if with the opposite kind of nurturing and growing up process, you have developed into two differently adapted individuals. Your Quasi-Identical and you have got similar goals and interests, and hence often find yourself crossing paths in the same environment. But those aspirations are supposed to serve opposite purposes and ideals. It can be bewildering to meet such a twin who is both so similar, yet so different.
In that manner, talking to each other is both interesting but also challenging; you constantly have to reevaluate what they have said, ask back what they have actually meant. “What did you say?“ will be a commonly employed phrase in verbal communication. Rephrasing sentences will also be done on several occasions: “I would have said it differently.“
“I think I get what you mean… (but not really).“
There is a strange sense of never feeling like you truly like and know the other person, even when you can reach to similar conclusions (with some difficulty). There is a lack of deep mutual agreement, contrary to the kinship with one’s Identical. With your Quasi-Identical, there is some kind of rupture in the acceptance domain – you both accept them, but not at all. In that way, you can be both friends but not know each other intimately at all. It is difficult to establish close bonding with a Quasi-Identical. One feels as if their twin is too estranged to get really close to them. Parting ways is not experienced to be too difficult – one thinks the other will be alright by themselves, and the fact there are no shared IE values makes the people not feel bonded enough; there is no “glue“ that keeps the people together. Also, Quasi-Identicals rarely have any deeper grudge for the other. They can not talk to each other for a long time, and talk again later as if nothing had happened.
As mentioned before, Quasi-Identicals often meet, for their areas of interest are very similar. With mutual physical attraction and some superficial bonding, Quasi-Identicals may date and even marry. People who are prone to getting to know their partner more intimately, as in they go through a more prolonged dating process, are much less inclined to date a Quasi-Identical. For on a fundamental level, both people are too different, being in opposing Quadras – and this shows eventually. However, young people who like to move fast with relationships and yearn for similarity, but also need a little variance for a lack of boredom, often end up in Quasi-Identical relationships. It is a relationship easy to get into, similar to Activity, but much less satisfying.
Quasi-Identicals can relate to each other only based on their shared Club and Introversion/Extroversion dichotomy (and, depending on the individuals, their Enneagram types etc.) As long as the focus of the interaction lies on those aspects, the relation may run generally smoothly. However, most relationships require more flexibility and common ground to flourish; as in, when difficult times or circumstances arrive, it is expected one’s partner can help and adapt, or at least have a shared vision on what should be done. With your Quasi-Identical, you cannot expect any help or same outlook on such issues; you will have to face them alone, your Quasi-Identical partner being a mere bystander, equally helpless, as well as pursuing another (end) goal.
Relationships with one’s Quasi-Identical commonly resemble the Facebook friendship you have with someone you are not close to. Your Quasi-Identical is interesting enough for you to accept their friend request and “like” certain (club-related) posts of theirs, but beyond that there is no deeper interaction, for the relationship is lacking in psychological merging capacity, so to speak.
Conclusively, Quasi-Identicals often become friends, but no close ones – which is exactly the best kind of relationship to have with a Quasi-Identical, if one at all. It is assumed that marriage will be too dissatisfying with one’s Quasi-Identical, and for that reason should be rather avoided. Marriage with a Quasi-Identical is unlikely to be disastrous and emotionally scarring as with some other types, but simply unfulfilling and disharmonious. If both people have an active and fulfilling social/family life outside the relationship, this will be greatly beneficial for a Quasi-Identical marriage (and required for it to persist).
Stars: ½ out of 5.
Note: For a long-term romantic relationship, at least ★★★ stars are recommended.
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