Activity Relation


The term “Activity” does not so much refer to the people involved becoming literally more active (though that could be a side effect), but rather both people getting “activated” psychologically through exchanging information from their Ego and Super-Id blocks so quickly and intensely, they just as quickly exhaust each other and need to retreat to recuperate from the interaction. (This is especially true for the introverted Activity pairings.) This “activation effect” is roughly analogous to someone eating too much delicious candy too quickly and be left with stomach pains, having to take a break. Once the pains are gone, they will still be tempted to eat the candy again in the future, and the same will happen again.

Differently from Duality, Activity partners relatively easily meet and start interacting with each other sooner, but because their Ego and Super-Id blocks don’t mesh with one another’s as neatly as in Duality, the information exchange becomes strained over time – hence the need for periodical distance. Afterwards, Activity partner are ready and eager to engage with each other again, looking for the elation they experienced the last time before they got exhausted too soon, just to find themselves tired once again and taking another breather away from each other. When Activity partners are not given the space and time to distance themselves from the other when the need arises, one or even both of them may actually have an emotional break-down out of the blue, simply because they are overwhelmed. Even too much of a good thing can be “bad”. Coming back to the previous analogy, you may equate this emotional break-down with a “sugar shock”.

Activity partners find each other to be pleasant, interesting company and easy to deal with. Generally they agree on what is important in life and the nature of the ideal kind of interaction. They usually see each other as being more similar to themselves than they truly are – differences in preferred lifestyle (temperament-related) and strengths/weaknesses eventually make them realize how different they actually are. The former aspect can create a little amount of irritation, the latter one creates mutual respect and appreciation. Information and advice from an Activity partner can be helpful, but can also fall short at times regardless. In that same vein, (emotional/psychological) attraction between Activity partners is not always strong enough for romantic relationships to develop, despite their good compatibility – hence Activity is more often a close friendship relation. Matching subtypes (e.g LII-Ne with SEI-Si) can increase the feelings of attraction, and create more energetic balance, which additionally slows down the accelerating effect. The introverts with the extroverted Contact subtype will adopt the role of the extrovert and ensure the partners won’t become isolated from the outside world, while the extroverts with the introverted Contact subtype will adopt the role of the introvert and draw back more regularly.

The only challenges of Activity are its instability regarding the energetic balance, and the tendency of both partners expecting the other to be (even) more like their Dual and “pushing” for more supply to their Dual-seeking function, because the partner seems so close to the ideal and capable of doing so. When partners are attuned to their interaction pattern and don’t expect the other to bring down the stars from the heavens, this relation can be quite satisfying for the long-term.

All in all, Activity is one of the best relations in Socionics, for the people are on the same page when it comes to general life goals (due to being in the same Quadra), as well as being able to balance out each other’s weaknesses to a reasonably good extent. However, when it comes down to the details, Activity partners may find each other having to agree to disagree – though neither one takes any offense to this. Matching subtypes and compatible instinctual stackings will lessen the amount of disagreement.


Stars: ★★★★ out of 5.

(With matching subtypes: ★★★★½ out of 5.) 

(With mis-matching subtypes: ★★★½ out of 5.) 

Note: For a long-term romantic relationship, at least ★★★ stars are recommended.

Click here for examples of intertype relation matches.

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